Memorial Day – Hakaros HaTov
May 31st, 2010 - David Linn
Today is Memorial Day here in the United States. It is the day that we mourn those soldiers who gave their lives so that we can enjoy the freedoms offered by this great land.
Although we are still in Golus, it’s incumbent upon us to appreciate all of the good bestowed upon us by our country and to honor the memories of those brave men and women who fought and died to protect our freedom.
So today, be you democrat or republican, conservative or liberal or anywhere in between, take a moment to offer your thanks to the over 1,000,000 soldiers who have made the ultimate sacrifice for your freedom.
First published May 29, 2006.
May 29th, 2006 16:16
When I was a kid on Staten Island (1950′s, early 1960′s) there was a massive Memorial Day Parade every year including every imaginable band and organization, including the Jewish War Veterans. Since then, it changed location (now going directly through my old neighborhood, West Brighton), but is still a big deal. Whoever has a flag hangs it in front of the house. In fact, I visited the neighborhood last summer and many flags were out on an ordinary weekday. A number of local intersections had been renamed after firemen who died on duty on 9/11/2001.
But today we live in the Midwest and, oddly, we had the only US flag out on our block today. This is hard to explain!
May 29th, 2006 16:29
I’ve got my stars and stripes flying today.
May 29th, 2006 17:38
This year, Memorial Day has personal tangible personal meaning to me. A number of my high school classmates have been on tour of duty in Iraq, and one very driven classmate who dreamed of serving in the Armed Forces gave his life for this country one year ago in an elite Special Forces Unit. A (non-Jewish)classmate wrote on website put up by the school dedicated in his honor, that if you are remembered for your life, you never die. There is certainly a similiar concept in the Torah world, and it certainly seems important to take time out to remember those who have ensured our freedom through the ultimate sacrifice. Having a neighbor and classmate to remember definitely helps makes the day more meaningful.
May 29th, 2006 18:22
SephardiLady,
When you have that personal connection, your perspective certainly changes. We’re no longer talking faceless names. We’re talking real people with families and rich, full lives. Makes the sacrifice all the more great.
May 29th, 2006 21:15
I recall reading of Rav Avigdor Miller z”l flying the American flag at his home. I don’t recall if it was on July 4th, Memorial (formerly called Decoration) day, Veteran’s (formerly called Armistice) day, all of the above, or some other combination.
May 30th, 2006 08:05
Certainly after shortly after 9-11, many Yeshivot of all strips flew the American Flag.
May 30th, 2006 09:40
Right after 9-11 and without poetic exaggeration, Flatbush and Boro Park was very decked out in Red, White and Blue.
Many Gedolim, Rav Chaim Ozer Grodzensky, and Rav Moshe Feinstein especially, referred to America as a Malchus Shel Chesed.
May 28th, 2007 09:06
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May 28th, 2007 11:21
Let’s not forget the brave G.I.s of WW II who speeded the end of the war , the Holocaust and liberated some of the camps. More could have been saved without state dep. interference but let’s not go there.
May 28th, 2007 11:23
As chronicheld here”
http://www.amazon.com/While-Six-Million-Died-Chronicle/dp/0879518367
May 28th, 2007 15:34
“Right after 9-11 and without poetic exaggeration, Flatbush and Boro Park was very decked out in Red, White and Blue.”
Halevi their counterparts here in Israel should be as thoughtful and sensitive on our memorial day.
May 28th, 2007 15:45
Chaim G., we offered a separate post on that here.
May 29th, 2007 11:28
I think that one of the great lessons to be learned from the veterans is that just as democracy must be bravely fought for and defended so too freedom must be earned. Many people today seem to think that freedom is just a synonym for license and irresponsibility.
Maybe someone should write a post on the Torah definition of freedom as it is central to everything (exodous from Egypt et al)
May 25th, 2009 05:02
I hear, of course Jews must respect the US adn any other govt except a blatantly oppressive one and that includes paying taxes (something our community tends to be very casual about),but take this patriotic bromide with a big grain of salt. Don’t forget that the US failed to lift a finger when the Jews of Europe were burning in the gas chambers and ditto for the last couple of Israeli wars when the Hizbollah and Hamas were trying to bomb the hell out of US and the US didn’t do diddly squat.
May 25th, 2009 10:08
While your facts are hardly debatable it’s all relative.
Can you mention another country currently or at anytime in the history of our diaspora, that has been MORE philisemitic pro-Israel than the USA?
But the attitude that you express answers why I am the only Jew in my 95% Jewish neighborhood flying a flag.
May 25th, 2009 12:21
Tzirelchana, you make a good point. The balance, of course, is that Hashem has us show gratitude even to places and figures who we think of as largely antagonistic, when there was a period that we benefitted from them.
As for the US, the amount of good it has done worldwide far outweighs, IMO, the negative. That isn’t to ignore the negative; but we have to still appreciate the good.
What’s more, Memorial Day isn’t necessarily about the US as an institution. Memorial Day is about men and women who literally sacrificed themselves for the greater good of a civil society in the world; or at least the greatest approximation of such. How could we not be respectful and grateful to them and their families? In my opinion, that’s simple derech eretz-common decency.
Please folks, don’t forget the living veterans who pay a daily and hourly price for their protection of civil society. I treat them in the ER every week. The walking dead you see out there, homeless, drunk, on drugs are often veterans who started unknowingly self-medicating themselves to escape the effects of the psychological trauma they suffer. We disdain them, yet ignore at our moral peril where they’re really coming from and how they got that way, and how much we really owe them, too.
May 25th, 2009 18:13
My father, A”H, was a WWII vet who lost a brother in that war. He had another brother and some nephews who served in WWII, along with an older brother who fought for the US in WWI. My father didn’t fly the flag at our home, citing its annexation by the hardhats of the 60′s and 70′s, many of whom were anti-Semites.
I fly the flag on many days of the year in honor of our country, the service men and women who made it back, and those who did not.
Last year, Michael Oren was quoted in the Jewish Week as saying Americans (in general) perceive our soldiers of today as “faceless kids from Oklahoma,” while Israelis have a much more intimate relationship with their soldiers. A sad fact is that many Jews in the States can name individual Israeli MIA’s, while we don’t even know what American units from our home states are serving in combat. We should change that. Here you will see the original article (Oren’s quote is about 2/3 of the way through the article) and my response to it.
http://www.thejewishweek.com/viewArticle/c40_a12811/News/Israel.html
http://www.thejewishweek.com/viewArticle/c53_a13000/Editorial__Opinion/Letter.html
May we learn the lessons of Tisha B’Av, Yom HaZikaron and Memorial Day so that we may always reap the rewards of Pesach, Yom HaAtzma’ut and the 4th of July.
May 25th, 2009 22:04
Rabbi Moshe Feinstien of blessed memory called the USA a “malchut shel chesed,” literally: “a kingdom of kindness.”
May 26th, 2009 07:56
Easy way to show appreciation.Go to one of the many parades and just clap as the vets walk by (works on veterans day too) the kids love to wave at our heros and the vets seem to really appreciate it too. It is also nice for them to see people with kippahs supporting them.
May 26th, 2009 09:15
Our Shul sent a number of packages with food, etc., to American military units fighting in Iraq and received many sincere thank-yous.
Today, we can support the “cream of the crop” that defend us while taking exception to the thieves in Washington and their policies.
May 26th, 2009 09:27
My tzedakah list includes Jewish War Veterans, for their service to vets and to Jews who are currently serving, and the USO, which makes life easier for all who serve.
May 26th, 2009 11:52
citing its annexation by the hardhats of the 60’s and 70’s, many of whom were anti-Semites.
maybe if more Jews flew the flag, and not just in post 9.11 situations (HaShem preserve us from any more) these groups would be less anti-semitic???
May 26th, 2009 12:19
The actual NYC hardhat movement was a reaction to the chaos caused by the Lindsay Administration and its allies. See
http://www.amazon.com/Ungovernable-City-Lindsays-Crisis-Liberalism/dp/0465008437
The book also discusses Lindsay’s own very shaky relationship with Jews who were not Manhattan liberals.
May 26th, 2009 13:00
With all due respect, while it is important to have hakaras hatov for the countries hosting Jews in galus and to remember the soldiers, I find it incredibly saddening that this same respect and memorial isn’t upheld by all Jews when Israel’s memorial day comes around. How can the same Jews who remember thank America for being a free country ignore and fail to remember their OWN fellow brothers’ and sisters’ messirut nefesh (self-sacrifice) for their OWN land, Eretz Yisrael. This is the truest sign of galus.
May 26th, 2009 13:09
“This is the truest sign of galus”
…or of insufficient publicity here.
May 26th, 2009 15:56
Israeli Flags are fraught…American Flags less so.
May 26th, 2009 16:34
maybe if more Jews flew the flag, and not just in post 9.11 situations (HaShem preserve us from any more) these groups would be less anti-semitic???
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I think that many of the hardhats were anti-Semites before they started flying the flag.
In WWII, Jews enlisted to fight for this country, but unfortunately while in service many were subjected to personal anti-Semitic insults, or taunts about America being dragged into the “Jews’ war.”
We often don’t have to scratch very deeply to find the inner anti-Semite in people who go on tirades against the enemy of the day. Many of the same people who were gung ho against Hitler were barely disturbed by what he was doing to the Jews.
May 31st, 2010 12:14
It is important to realize that those Americans who respect that military and understand that freedom is not free, but hard-fought and hard-won, are those who will be most supportive of Israel needing to defend herself against her enemies. Nowadays Israel’s biggest haters align with the extreme left-wing European pacifist crowd that hates soldiers and thinks peace comes from flowers not bullets. The town of Sderot was hit by over 5000 missiles before Israel’s incursion into Gaza. Those who agree with the idea of self-defense nodded when Israelis pointed out, “What if 5000 missiles were hitting towns in Texas from across the border? Wouldn’t you send troops into Mexico?”
G-d only help Israel get over the newest international crisis, just announced today: the boarding of the international flotilla headed for Gaza (let’s hope they discover missiles and ammunition aboard this supposedly peaceful shipment, and that none of the internationally known dignitaries aboard was severely injured). Once again Israel gets condemned in a double standard not applied against any other country.
May 31st, 2010 15:48
To Tzirelchana #14: I think you make some excellent points in your comment, but also please consider some other important facts. There were a great many people in the U.S.A. in 1941 who were pressuring the United States to either remain neutral in World War II or to actually join with Germany in wiping out the Soviet Union and Communism. The full extent of the Nazis’ evil was not yet known. The fact that the United States made the right choice to enter the war and send the greatest army in history against Hitler was a true miracle. Also, in late 1973, against the advice of the State Department, American President Richard M. Nixon ordered that critical military supplies be sent immediately to Israel which was facing certain defeat in the Yom Kippur War. Although it won him no Jewish votes, this action saved Medinat Yisroel.