Posted on | May 21, 2007 | By David Linn | 44 Comments
Beyond Teshuva is now just about a a year and a half old. I think we,as a community, have done some great things. We’ve pretty much taken at least some small steps in the direction of our tag line “learning growing, giving”. Our posts have pretty much run the gamut from noserings to sartorial splendor, economic pressures to “Big Fat Secular weddings”. However, there’s one area that I consistently see us failing to address and that is the issue of singles, dating and marriage. Sure, we’ve often detoured into the area and touched upon it on the periphery of related topics. But, no one seems willing to step up and address it head-on. That “no one” includes me.
Maybe together we can bring the issue to the foreground. I will throw out some questions for discussion and hopefully we can start a meaningful dialogue in the comments. Please get involved by giving your input.
Is there really a singles “crisis”?
If so, how did we get here and how do we address it?
Is the problem more difficult for BTs?
How is dating for BTs different than dating for FFBs, if at all?
In general, should BTs date FFBs?
What are some dating mistakes to avoid?
What is the best advice you would give someone who is dating?
How can singles expand their contacts beyond their own local geographic area?
How can the average married person get more involved in shidduchim?
How does the dating process differ between Eretz Yisrael and Chutz La’Aretz?
*** After writing this post, I saw an advertisement for “The Shadchan Magazine” which is a new magazine that states “Here’s what we’re doing about the shidduch crisis” and says “You don’t have to be a shadchan to make a sgidduch. The website is here. Has anyone seen the magazine? Any thoughts?